How many times in your life have you experienced hurt, disappointment, anger, or stress, from the difference between your imagination and reality? We’re very creative creatures. And when we set out to do things, we always expect that everything will turn out exactly the way we want. Does this sound familiar? “I’m going to finish my degree. And then all the companies will line up for me. I’ll pick the one with the best compensation. And I’ll be rich.” “I really like her. We’ll date for a few months. Move in together. Get married. She’ll want four kids. We settle for two. Get a holiday home at the beach. Boom. Happy life.” “My business idea is awesome. I’ll raise some cash. Hire a few people to build the product. We’ll roll it out. The media will write about it. I’ll get on TV. And then I’ll sell the company.” “I’ll make a few videos. Put them on YouTube. People will share them. One of my videos will go viral. And I’m in. Show me the money.” Chances of those scenarios coming true? I don’t know exactly. But I guess it’s somewhere close to ZERO. I’m not trying to bash your dreams here. But a little pragmatism can never hurt. It’s not practical to have high expectations because they hardly come true. So why have them in the first place? Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying you shouldn’t have high standards or aim high in life. Those things are good. But just don’t rely on your imagination for timelines and outcomes. It’s counterproductive. When you have high expectations and the outcome is worse: You’ll be frustrated. When you have low expectations and the outcome is better: You’ll be grateful. Barry Schwartz, a psychologist, and author of The Paradox of Choice, put it best: “The secret to happiness is low expectations.” Now, this is not new information. Most of us know that high expectations are not helpful. Why do we still have them? We still desire more, more, more. And when you want more, you expect more. You see? You can’t fix your expectations without fixing your desires. “But how can you get the most out of life and not strive for more? That doesn’t make sense.” Well, a lot of things in life don’t make sense. But here’s the thing: When you desire more, you also have more options. “What should I do? Work more? Earn more money? Help more people? Spend more time with my family?” In general, having more options is a bad thing. More means confusion. And confusion often results in anxiety and regret. Do you know this feeling: “What if I made the wrong decision?” So more isn’t better. What’s wrong with 0.1% growth? Or with making less money and having more time for personal things? “Yeah, but I want it all!” Now we’re getting somewhere. You want it all! And I’m not saying that it’s not possible. Just don’t expect it. Don’t expect the world from yourself. And more importantly: Don’t expect so much from others. No one’s perfect. People will disappoint you sometimes. And vice versa. Accept that it’s not the end of the world. When you live your life free of expectations, you see things for what they are. Don’t wish that things were better. Make them better.