Facebook post by Richard Keith Latman

Finding yourself is kinda a funny thing because it only happens when you find what you were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and of course physical appearance. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren't? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic rubber band that keep us smaller and contained? Here's how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my ultimate savior the all mighty all-beef hot dog. You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren't. You take the action, and the insight follows: You don't think your way into becoming yourself. It really is pretty simple when it all boils down no? Accept yourself for who you are, use your experiences and loss to refine your views and ignore everything else that anyone says about who you are, should be or should strive to be. My ex once said I was faking being a good guy and making people believe I was something I wasn't. The truth is I just found who I really was, embraced it and now have become the person I was always supposed to be. Perfect, heck no, but warts and all I am what I am and people either accept it or they don't. It's all up to you as we've talked about before but today sounds like a really good day to start. Who are you really and how often do you get to be the real you? The answer of course is you should always be you as you were intended to be. So, you be you and do it 24/7 Enjoy the weekend. Peace :)